Finding Hope After Fear: A Review of It Will All Come Right in the End
Written by Katie Barr
Ashling Podmore’s It Will All Come Right in the End is a personal memoir about surviving coercive control, navigating motherhood under emotional pressure, and rebuilding a life after an abusive relationship. Rather than presenting recovery as a neat journey from suffering to freedom, Podmore appears determined to show its confusion, reversals, guilt, and exhausting practical realities. The result is a story whose central achievement is not simply that its author escaped, but that she recovered the ability to trust her own judgement.
The memoir begins from a painful contradiction: Podmore believed she would be a patient, emotionally steady mother, yet she entered motherhood while struggling merely to survive. Her relationship did not become damaging through one unmistakable incident. Instead, control accumulated quietly through intimidation, surveillance, criticism, financial manipulation, and frightening outbursts. Details such as a door kicked from its hinges, cameras purchased with inheritance money, and an apparently ordinary argument about pasta demonstrate how abuse can invade everyday life. These moments matter because they expose the gap between how a relationship may look from outside and how unsafe it feels within it.
“Such honesty challenges the cruel expectation that mothers must remain calm and selfless regardless of what they are enduring.”
Podmore’s discussion of motherhood gives the book its strongest emotional dimension. She does not portray herself as endlessly heroic or perfectly composed. She acknowledges occasions when trauma affected her parenting, including exhaustion, anger, guilt, and the feeling that she was only “barely parenting.” Such honesty challenges the cruel expectation that mothers must remain calm and selfless regardless of what they are enduring. Her children eventually become the force that changes the direction of the story: when they begin returning home frightened, protecting them becomes more powerful than the fear that has kept her trapped.
The book’s use of real messages and screenshots reportedly adds immediacy and credibility. Instead of asking readers to accept a polished retrospective account, Podmore allows them to see fragments of the confusion as it unfolded. This documentary element should be particularly valuable in a memoir about coercive control, where victims are often encouraged to doubt their memories and interpretations. The evidence does not merely strengthen the narrative; it reflects the psychological struggle at the book’s centre—the struggle to establish that what happened was real.
“Humour does not minimise the abuse; rather, it shows that the person experiencing it has not been completely erased.”
Although the subject matter is harrowing, the memoir is not described as relentlessly bleak. Podmore uses dark humour to release tension and preserve a sense of personality beyond victimhood. That balance is important. Humour does not minimise the abuse; rather, it shows that the person experiencing it has not been completely erased. The book’s hopeful title is therefore not a promise that time automatically repairs every wound. It suggests that life can become meaningful again through persistence, support, honesty, and repeated acts of protection.
A possible limitation is that the book’s rawness may make it emotionally difficult for readers with similar experiences. Its discussions of domestic abuse, alcohol dependency, postnatal mental-health struggles, and trauma-related parenting guilt require care. Yet this discomfort is also part of its purpose. Podmore writes for people who stayed longer than they believe they should have, and for parents afraid that their worst years have permanently damaged their children.
Ultimately, It Will All Come Right in the End is an important memoir of survival without simplification. Its message is compassionate rather than sentimental: leaving is not the end of trauma, healing is rarely straightforward, and guilt can remain long after danger has passed. Even so, the book insists that recovery is possible. By turning private shame into shared testimony, Podmore offers recognition to readers who may have felt isolated, confused, or disbelieved—and reminds them that rebuilding begins when they reclaim their own version of the truth.
All content is original to The Literary Lounge. Review written by Katie Barr.
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